When I was 11 years old, I marched through the halls of Congress, holding hands with Betty Friedan, to ask for an extension of the Equal Rights Amendment.
I went to this marvelous school, Upland Hills Farm School. It was (and remains) an alternative education school with a creative and nurturing curriculum that welcomes the uniqueness and creativity inherent in all children. I had some amazing experiences in my three years there, not the least of which was our Women's Class trip to Washington.
Every Wednesday morning, the older kids would go offsite to "Men's" and "Women's" Class. A simple answer would be to explain them as "sex-ed" classes, but that doesn't nearly do it justice. It was much more than rudimentary sex-ed. This was the 1970's. We talked about women's empowerment and our bodies and famous women and what we wanted to be when we grew up. It was a really cool class where we felt amazingly lucky and honored to be female.
I have no idea what the boys did. Nor did I particularly care. But I'm pretty sure their class wasn't nearly as cool as ours. Example: We took a field trip in the Fall of 1978 to attend a rally in Washington, D.C. to ask for an extension to ratify the ERA. We were all young girls between ages 9-13, our moms, and some teachers from the school. I don't remember anyone ever saying "No, you can't go." or "Why would you take young girls to this? They can't vote." Just that we were going.
We listened to the speeches, then headed to our Senator's office (Sen. Bob Griffith, from Michigan) to let him know we wanted him to support the extension. As we walked through the halls of congress (Yes, you could just walk in and head right to your senator's office in those days. Tell him what was on your mind.) we held hands in solidarity. On one side was my mother, and on the other was a short-ish, white haired woman whom I assumed was one of the mothers from our group.
"Oh my god," said my mother. "I can't believe I'm walking down the halls of Congress with Betty Friedan."
I was so embarrassed. (Remember, I was 11. Everything your mother says when you're 11 is embarrassing.) But I had no idea, then, who Betty Friedan was or what she stood for. To be honest, at the time I had no idea how extraordinary my experience was. I thought everybody got on buses at some time or another and went to Washington D.C. to let their voices be heard. That pivotal even made me understand that I had a duty to let my opinion be known, and the fact that I was female didn't make my opinion any less valuable.
I thank Betty Friedan for opening that door for American women. May her soul be free.