France and The French
This trip has been remarkable for a number of reasons, not the least of which is getting a better feel
for France and the French people. Oftentimes when I travel, I pick one place and stay there for a while. I'm not a big fan of The Grand Tour in 10 days, where "If this is Tuesday this must be Belgium". How can you get to know a place like that? I find it exhausting.
I'm also reading a terrific book: SIXTY MILLION FRENCHMEN CAN'T BE WRONG: What Makes the French so French (I bought this at an English bookstore in Cannes, so the version I'm reading is the England-English version. The American version of this book is sub-titled: "Why We Love France But Not the French" which I find most embarrasing and rude.) It explains, in direct and un-romanticized terms, the history of La Republique and why the French act and live as they do.
Here are some things I have learned (through this book and over the course of my two-week stay):
- The French like to take it easy. But it's not the same kind of "hang loose" attitude we found in Hawaii. They are a very industrious and proud people, but they have built leisure time into their lives. For example, many (but not all) shops close from noon to three. That's lunchtime, folks, and it is taken extremely seriously. So, the shops are open from nine (or ten) to noon. Closed from noon to two (or three), then open til 7 or 8 at night. During those open hours the shopkeepers will be quite attentive to you and give you very nice customer service. It's not as though they're lazy while they're working. They just make room for leisure.
- There is a looser sense of time here in the South. The shops might open at 10. Or 9. Maybe 8:45. Then they're closed for lunch for ... a while. Then they're open again. Pas de problème, Madame. You'll get what you need eventually.
- Manners are extremely imporant here. And it has a different context. Yes, sure, in the United States "please" and "thank you" are the magic words. But here it is required that you greet the shop owner with a "Bonjour" when you walk into a store, and leave with an "au revoir". The analogy they give in the book is that in French culture, a shopkeeper's store is like an extension of their home. (Sometimes it literally is.) You would never walk into someone's home without a "hello", right? It would be rude. Same deal here. "Bonjour" will get you good service. Just marching in without a polite greeting = you're a boor.
- Snacking is not a major phenomenon. Mealtimes are very set things. You have, perhaps, a coffee and some fruit or a croissant for breakfast. Then you have a very nice lunch (with wine and salad and an entree). Then you have a nice dinner, somewhat late. To graze around all day just isn't done. Also, grabbing a quick cup of coffee "to go" is really hard. There are cafés with delicious coffee everywhere. There are no Starbuck's. A cup of coffee? Great idea! But you'd better be ready to sit down and drink it. I think this has a great deal to do with why the French aren't fat.
- Wine is good, cheap, and everywhere. We've been staying in apartments while we're here so we've had to go to the grocery store to get our food (which is both fascinating and very nice...eating all your meals in restaurants gets old fast, even in France). In the grocery stores, the wine section takes up rows and rows, and most bottles don't run any more than five or six euros. There are more expensive wines available in the specialty stores, but we haven't felt the need to go there too often.
- Cheese is a way of life. You know how in your grocery store the cheese section might take up a quarter of an aisle? Well, in France, it takes up three or four full aisles. One whole aisle, both sides, just for the different kinds of yogurt.
Well, that's all for now. Time to go drink more cheap rosé, as we are leaving in two days and then the rosé won't be quite as good or quite as cheap. Au revoir!






